February 2022 Stall Talk
'ŌLELO NO'EAU #683
He kēhau ho'oma'ema'e ke aloha.
"Love is like a cleansing dew."
Love removes hurt.
Healthy Love Is Learned
1 in 5 UH Hilo students reported experiencing domestic & dating violence.
Recognizing Unhealthy Behaviors
- INTENSE overwhelming emotions and behaviors
- EXPLOSIVE and unpredictable temper
- EXTREME jealousy and insecurity
- BELITTLES you to make you feel inferior
- MONITORS your cell phone, email, and social media activity without your permissio
- MANIPULATES decisions, actions, and emotions
- CONTROLS what you do & who you associate with
- ISOLATES from friends, family, and others
- BETRAYS trust
- SABOTAGES reputation, achievements, or success
- DEFLECTS RESPONSIBILITY for unhealthy behavior
Healthy Love
- RESPECTS privacy
- CELEBRATES individuality
- ENCOURAGES independence
- ALLOWS for equality
- HONORS boundaries
- COMMUNICATES honestly without fear
- LISTENS without judgment
- PROMOTES trust
FOLLOW @uhhilocape TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Screenings
Mental Health Screenings are available at the tip of your fingers. Scan the codes and check in on yourself! Ulifeline and Mindwise screens for the most common mental health conditions that college students face and connects them with resources. These online resources are confidential and can be completed at your own pace. If you wish to speak with someone further, please contact Student Health and Wellness Programs at (808) 932-7460 or email: shwp@hawaii.edu
National Outreach Services
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1 (800) 799-SAFE (7233), TTY 1 (800) 787-3224
- National Deaf Domestic Violence Hotline Videophone: (855) 812-1001
- The Trevor Project (LGBTQ Youth) Phone: (866) 488-7386
- Trans Lifeline Hotline: 1 (877) 565-8860
Confidential Services
- UH Hilo Counseling Services (808) 932-7465, SSC E-203
- Student Medical Services, (808) 932-7369, CC 212
- Kekai Lindsey, Title IX Confidential Advocate, Kekai Lindsey (808) 932-7958
- UH Hilo Security (808) 932-7011
Crisis Resources and Support
- Crisis Line of Hawaii, 1-(800)753-6879
- Crisis Text Line, Text "ALOHA" to 741741
- YWCA Hawaii Island Sexual Assault Hotline, (808) 935-0677
In an emergency, call 911